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One of the things that people used to ask me all the time about my “search” for a wife was something to the effect of, “Have you tried at Church? In other words I attended a church in which there were lots of single people, many of whom were attractive. ” What makes this an even better question in my case is that throughout my 30’s I attended a church of the hot chick.It seems to me that women who write off Christian guys as squares are making an illogical jump from “I’ve never met a Christian I’d want to date” to “I’d never date a Christian man.” Could you say the same about all Italian men if you dated a few Italian guys who bored you?All they really seem to mean is, “I’d never date any of the Christian men I’ve already met.” Which, of course, should have little to no bearing on future guys they meet.To be sure, if your experience of dating has always included sexual intimacy, then the idea of dating someone without sex might seem like a rather abrupt undertaking.But dating a guy who wants to hold off on sex has some serious benefits.Have you avoided men with online profiles touting their “love of the Lord”? I’m convinced that both men and women tend to approach relationships with a set of assumptions about potential partners, and I think religion is one trait that is too often judged based upon fiction rather than fact. Christianity is the largest religion in the world, claiming 2.2 billion of the world’s 6.9 billion people, as of last year.
I’ve also encountered women who think waiting till marriage is too much of a wild card.
In the church as a guy, if you never approach anyone then you are obviously passive, and not a real Christian leader. The one who approaches and gets shot down by everyone and the one who is successful in the approach but then decides he doesn’t want a second date (or third, or fourth, or doesn’t want to marry that girl). It starts with the general idea in evangelical culture that women are basically innocent and men are basically lustful or immature. At the same time, for the love of all things, a few dates does not a marriage make. If it goes bad, you still have to go to church there. If I ask someone out, she’ll still be there next week. I remember once I asked out this woman from church. I was frustrated and we had a bit of a rough exchange. I walked up to her the next Sunday and simply said, “Hey, are we good? I’ve been blessed to have seen this done well at my church several times. There’s a time to call out both the creeper and the player, but there is also time to stand up for the guy and tell the woman to let it go. What would make the church a safer place to pursue women?
But if you approach too many people you are “that guy”. In a hurry you become either the creeper or the player. To top it off, you get to be called out by the pastor. In our church culture, the church can be one of the least safe places to ask someone out. If I go to a bar, for example, I approach a girl, she says no, I move on. You don’t hear many sermons about it being time to woman up.
There are plenty of rotten human beings who call themselves Christians and plenty more who don’t. I don’t know if I’ve ever heard a woman come right out and make judgments about the attractiveness of guys serious about their Christian faith, but it’s certainly been implied.
Every once and a while I’ll hear a woman say she'd never date a Christian.
In fact many people go there partly because of this.